Anger can sometimes be thought of as an unwanted emotion, a “bad feeling”, something to be avoided at all costs.
Anger is a healthy emotion that helps us set our boundaries with other people. It shows what is important to us. It helps us defend ourself when someone treats us poorly, when they lie and cheat.
Harbouring anger and forcing it down may cause more harm, and when unexpressed can breed hostility, resentment, and aggression leading to more stress in our body.
Fear also steps in and can be seen as a sign of deficiency. What is nice to learn is that fear lies in the essence of courage that wants to face it, and fear can also protect us from danger. It can be our ally that helps us focus and stay in the moment when we need it the most.
We need anger for self-preservation, however we also need to learn how to accept and express it without damage, and this is something we rarely learn from our environment.
Many people cannot take it when we are feeling angry with them. We are often judged when we are afraid and perhaps even labeled. Vulnerability can be seen as a defect, and we grow up believing we are not good enough and look for solutions in self-improvement. However, this industry usually focuses on wrong solutions. It makes us become better instead of authentic.
Anger, like any other emotion, is something to be aware of, to feel and experience, and then to move forward from. Being able to do this in a productive and healthy way is crucial to the healing process.
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